ASPERGERS and RELATING

Relating can be a challenge.

Most of us hang out with people we feel comfortable with.

We may share a hobby, a natural synergy, an inkling, similar vibration, a way of being, a passion - something will unite us.

Where we can get stuck is once we start verbal communication. With words and language I am meaning here. We cling to literal meanings people make often missing the vibrational information, body language and non verbal communication.This then becomes our truth. It is often just based on our narrow perspective and our limited ability to relate beyond literal meanings. We don't trust our innate wisdom, senses and vibration and we seek literal justification.

Others of us are totally sensitive to all forms of communication - words/sensing/vibration/visuals and are always tuning into the communication of others from every angle.

I have a bunch of ideas on how we as humans struggle with relating.

For many of us we actually do not communicate best with language. Many of us are more responsive to vibration and visual stimuli therefore patterns, less language/logic and symbols work best for us to relay information and communicate at our best.

I believe it is complex and also unique to each person what can get in the way of us embracing our own limitations and learning new ways of communication. Here is just a few common theme's many seem to identify as they are driven to relate, unite and communicate at work, with their families and in love.

We love to simplify everything to one simple reason for all. That in itself is an ASPERGERS mindset - having one simplistic solution to everything. Unfortunately we cant simplify or come up with one way for everyone.

At the same time we love to create endless information that is completely exhausting and then we become obsessed with labels and categories. That too has to be transcended.

Many of us have relating challenges - we may struggle and not enjoy social situations, we may want to isolate ourselves or need constant social and/or egoic stimulation. It might be we find communication hard. It may be we have justified our way of relating as this is " just who I am and how I am". That maybe true and we can also affect our reality and how we respond and relate. Many of us have versions of behavioural labels like Aspergers Syndrome that we are not willing to embrace. This is becoming a common diagnosis in children yet I actually think it is not new. We have versions of this neurological patterning and characteristics. It is okay to embrace aspects of self that we may see in these labels. It does not mean we need to become this, it can assist us in our unification.

The education of ourselves to become conscious of our limitations is helpful in becoming whole and less reactive to others. Our reactions to others fractured energy is just our fractured energy placed on what we perceive as not inside of us. Through seeing self fully we then start to interact in this wonderful world creating healthy WE partnerships. Sometimes we will appreciate others ways of relating through appreciating ourselves. We can then walk beside one another hanging out with all the ways we relate.


ASPERGERS LINK re characteristics and traits for men and women
http://www.help4aspergers.com/pb/wp_4a3112c8/wp_4a3112c8.html