What makes my work unique and different for people who want to investigate personal growth and evolution is we include much of the norms and beliefs re transformation YET we add onto this. This means it can look full on and detailed but we make this process easy and simple.
I will use a common example that many people come to me asking.
The new age core belief that runs is "I create the whole of my reality" . Often then we make distinctions regarding wounds eg: I grew up in an abusive household or was abused as child hence my pattern of self attack and attracting abusive people into my life.
This belief system is common and if we choose to believe in this from an absolute perspective it looks like I AM THE MAKER which ironically rejects divinity and affirms the ego.
I refer to levels of consciousness and development which I utilize and love the fun diagram of this above. This helps me understand the people I work with. For people moving from Level 5 Orange meme seeking change, success and transformation this belief is often where they start.
Way we see it is I am a creator, the creative impulse runs through me. My ego defines things and creates understanding. A healthy relationship to my feminine and masculine aspects of goodness is key. If I co create my life and the world I live then my thoughts and feelings direct energy into creation. Maybe this is true and we also like to suggest that the The Maker works through you. A healthy relationship with our goodness which fuels being ness and humility means creation is effortless. That engenders less mental analysis of how and why you are creating your reality. The ego identification actually hinders creation in the now as it takes you away from the NOW. We think it is useful and it is yet is most useful when it is working for us aligned with our goodness. Now creation means you develop capacity of trust and acting moment to moment. Living in the NOW looks like the past is not what you carry in thoughts, beliefs, emotional patterns - it correlates as a free energy system and one that is really present to life moment to moment. When we dissect our creation or events using the ego we actually are NOT in the moment.
Where people get stuck when they commence their growth is this often becomes their mantra and when it is an absolute we tend to simplify our understanding of a teaching. What I see is we all have the best intentions to live by this yet it actually only continues to fuel the cause and effect relationship we have with life. There is a world that includes and transcends cause and effect that includes YOU and what you actively create plus what you allow to be created through you. This opens up unity with yourself and genuine communion with other people when we are not so engaged in our own creation yet fully accessed as a creator.
For example: We are in a business or personal relationship and we continue to create tension regarding an issue. The New Age way to deal with this is to see that you create the dynamic and your participation. Then you may choose to do it differently and act in a new way. Sometimes you will experience a new reality other times nothing changes. Is that because of you? Is that the other person? Is that your reflection? There might be some blame, regret, humility experienced maybe, maybe not. The ego is clever it loves to be acknowledged and to make distinctions. If this is just cognitively GOT then it will most likely continue to be what you play out.
Is that real transformation or change? I don't think so, for sustainable transformation I value and utilize the AQAL map of Ken Wilber below that suggests we look at the individual, the body and behaviour, the world and the culture we live within when we want transformation of any kind.
That would suggest this belief is one part of a puzzle and goes beyond it being a mental concept. The charge we create with one another in relating is often responsive to our energy and polarity – we experience this as a tension, sadness, resentment etc. It is also contributed by our belief systems of self and what we ignore (our darkness) is what we project onto someone else. Our responses and reactions can be affected by our emotional body and past wounds re childhood. It is also affected by collective dynamics for example: power dynamics between men and women that go back centuries. It is also affected by our biology, neurology and mental health. The ways we process information and our perceptive abilities. It is also affected by relationship dynamics that relate to our parents and how we have learnt to relate with one another. It can also be affected by the collective energy, shifts and changes.Here are a few examples of how multiple factors contribute to our experience of life and NOT all of that is created consciously by YOU. Yet at the same time because we know conceptually I am one with all of life then we have contributed to our experience. Can we change the whole of our experience of life to suit what we want? More than likely no is the answer because it is NOT always about you. The dynamic of unity is about the swirling energy of us all combining our individuation in the pool of life. In that we can become our goodness, affirm unification with others, create communion in how we relate, change the ways we act and respond in our relationships and powerfully show up in our integrity.
This opens up the belief I CREATE THE WHOLE OF MY REALITY to include a much more complex and detailed relationship to this simplified explanation of creation. It also highlights our narcissism and obsession with creation to embrace this about ourselves and integrate our divinity that is NOT all about what we want. It is rational and reasonable to view our creative potential in this way that includes our magical thinking along with the reality of our human existence. This will breed great self esteem and confidence in ways you may not yet know that benefit not only yourself and how you create but the people we live and create with.